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The Language Conflict

Posted on December 11, 2019 at 6:00 AM

It may be a little confusing when there are always at least two languages going on in your life. Our one and only recommendation for you and your child could be: speak your mother tongue. Do not speak any other language. It may be tempting to speak another language at times with your child, but it will not be good for him for many reasons.


The first and, I believe, the most important reason is that the mother tongue is the only language that comes from your heart, not mind. Culturally, you have the mindset for this language. Maybe this is even why it is called the mother tongue. You can only express your true feelings the best way with your own language. If you are a bilingual person already, you can speak the language you feel comfortable with. But only one language at a time.


After your little one has the ability to differentiate two languages from one another, then you can switch in between, letting the child know. But please keep in mind, that it is crucially important that you do not mix up two languages in one sentence. This habit will be very hard to break, both for you and your child, and he may have trouble about the language at school later.


A child can learn the second language in the preschool. Trust in your child and you will see that he will be able to speak in time. It may take long but the language learning curve is a curve that requires a little bit of patience. Language learning curve stays on the same point for a long period of time until the brain is ready to proceed to all the learning and it will start making sense. You will notice that your child will suddenly improve in the second language, after a long time he has been exposed to it. If your child is willing to learn and curious, it may take such a short amount of time that she starts understanding, even responding in that language.





A child also can learn the second language from another person. Just remember the rule of thumb, if this person is a close relative of yours, he should speak his own language. If this person is a nanny, a helper or anyone that is not a close relative, it doesn’t need to be his or her native language.


No matter what condition you may be in, please remember that your child counts on you when it comes to communication, and it is our responsibility to raise them into a self confident person.

Speak from your heart, your own language

Give it some time

Categories: Parenting